About eight per 1000 people go through a divorce every year in New Zealand. While common, the breaking of a family unit can be traumatic and could even affect a person’s self-esteem. This is why re-branding oneself is an important part of healing.
When a couple decides to part ways, the pain can be overwhelming. The feeling of rejection may be felt keenly. This life-altering event is one of the most stressful things that can happen in life, second only to death in terms of the amount of upheaval it causes.
Pampering oneself and learning how to feel good again is a vital part of the recovery process.
Allow ‘Me’ Time
Divorce is a loss so allow time for grieving. Don’t let other people dictate how long this takes. It’s normal to still cry after six weeks or even several months when a relationship has been significant. Give yourself some time, as long as you need, provided that it isn’t ruining your quality of life.
Take Up Old Hobbies or Start New Ones
Marriage and parenthood can mean that an individual’s interests get pushed to the side. Why not go back to that favourite class, sport, book club, or dance class? Hobbies help keep people busy and provide an opportunity to make new friends.
Have a Makeover
With beauty therapy, Tauranga specialists can help clients look their personal best. Natural facials, manicures and pedicures, makeup, and hair styling can help them look and feel great. Buying new clothes is another way to boost confidence.
Take on New Roles
Push the boat out a bit and experiment with different roles. If your ex did the cooking, why not take that up and learn how to cook good meals for yourself? Embrace the dormant skills that are just waiting to come to the surface.
Sell the House
Many divorced couples have to sell up due to their decreased budget, but doing it anyway is empowering. Staying in the marital home with its memories isn’t always healthy. Buying a new home means you can decorate it as you want and put your personal touch into it.
Divorce hurts, but re-building afterwards can be fun and bring out a stronger and more confident you.